“Initiated” meaning “created”, sure. But he’s often the one requesting. And just because she can say no doesn’t mean the dynamic isn’t weighted. It often felt to me like she isn’t good at saying no, and will put up with discomfort and embarrassment in order to avoid a confrontation (a common result of ask/guess cultures clashing, which I saw some of in here too)

To be clear, I do see how someone else could read things differently, but for me the impression came across so strongly, especially in that moment, that I couldn’t see anything in good faith anymore.