• ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world
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    7 months ago

    but before it can be reciprocated, you need to flirt.

    so you’re never allowed to flirt, because you can’t flirt until you’ve been flirted back. And they can’t flirt until they’ve been flirted at.

    Catch 22.

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      7 months ago

      I mean that’s the whole point of flirting. You establish a rapport and read the social cues to see if there’s reciprocation. Smiles, eye contact, etc. The problem of course, is misreading.

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        7 months ago

        but HonoraryManacian said it’s only allowed if it’s reciprocated.

        it’s not allowed because it can’t be reciprocated until after you do it.

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          7 months ago

          I mean there’s a large category of conversation that can lead to further flirtation without being considered initial flirtation. That’s the whole point, escalating socially acceptable requests.