• heavy@sh.itjust.works
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      7 months ago

      That’s not a question for me, and is beside my point.

      There are people that make relationship decisions based on finances, but the idea that you asked someone out and they said “you don’t make enough money” in rejection is one of those things that doesn’t really happen.

      More importantly, this gets tossed around by incels as reasons to view people as shallow and undeserving of respect. In reality it’s likely they misunderstood the situation, or didn’t think about why they themselves wouldnt be a great partner to be with.

      The author is probably genuine and just wanted to make a joke, but that doesn’t change that they reflected an incel idea here. That amplifies that voice, and that’s what it looks like to me.

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        7 months ago

        Not sure why you’re getting downvoted, but oh well…

        People can reject dating each other for any reason they want, no matter how silly or frivolous.

        I’m pretty sure though if you are genuinely asking someone out and they say no, the reason is not as important as the yes or no answer… it’s not like any valid reason is better than a supposedly invalid one…. Just move on and fine someone else you like and ask them out….

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          7 months ago

          The down votes are likely a knee jerk reaction, but it’s no big deal 🙂

          I agree with you, that’s a better way of thinking. It’s more rational to say hey, that one didn’t work out but it’ll be fine.

          I understand though, rejection hurts, and most of us have been through that. I just think more people need to be able to brush those things off and move on, as you’re saying.

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            7 months ago

            Yes rejection hurts and it is difficult to not take it personally, I just feel like incels need help, and just shaming them for something we acknowledge is involuntary doesn’t really help the issue