• Wes_Dev@lemmy.ml
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    8 months ago

    … this just reignited my desire for a boyfriend, but like, one that’s also autistic, so he fucking gets me. We’ll have lunch in perfectly comfortable silence at a busy diner and judge people that talk too loud in public. It’ll be great!

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      8 months ago

      Some friendly advise. A neurodivergent partner can be great but you can never assume they will be similar to you in the same setting. Coping mechanisms can be opposites and what is comfortable for you may be stressful for them.

      Me and my partner are both on the spectrum and i wouldn’t have it any other way but its common for at least one of us to deal with something at any given time (so there are few true breaks from stress) and at worst our challenges can amplify eachother.

      In the end everyone is unique so maintain an open mind when dating and try not tp judge all neurotypicals the same way.

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      8 months ago

      Maybe I’m autistic because that sounds fucking awesome. Fuck small talk. I just like existing by people I care about.

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        8 months ago

        My wife is autistic, can confirm lots of happy, comfortable silence. We also have a collection of white sounds, and different rain sounds from around the world lol