Like when an old disgusting man makes a disgusting joke about “wife bad” and looks at you with an “am I right or what?”-look. Last time that happened (it was a work colleague) I felt weirdly validated in my manlihood and felt like I’m part of the in group (I’m a cis man, but considerably younger that the other guy, and I was new in that place of work), while at the same time wishing that guy would just disappear into thin air. Disgusting feeling.