"Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority”

and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect me I won’t respect you” and they mean “if you won’t treat me like an authority I won’t treat you like a person”

and they think they’re being fair but they aren’t, and it’s not okay."

-a 15yo autistic girl experiencing ABA therapy

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  • bort
    3·
    8 months ago

    so… like CBT, but you don’t enjoy the torture-part nearly as much?

    • VubDapple@lemmy.world
      3·
      8 months ago

      It’s a branch of behaviorism but it is a distinct branch from CBT. CBT involves cognition and behavior analysts don’t work with thoughts, just behaviors. Like any therapy, it can be misused or it can be helpful, depending on your skill and sensitivity as a therapist. Behavior therapies are not about torture. They are therapies and aim to be helpful. Your mileage may vary though depending on what you want from therapy and how skillful your therapist is.

      • Mnemnosyne@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        3·
        8 months ago

        I think you got wooshed, cause I’m pretty sure the CBT being referred to is cock and ball torture.

        Though maybe I got wooshed, I’m not 100% sure.

        • bort
          1·
          8 months ago

          I am surprised how well this played out.

          Though maybe I got wooshed, I’m not 100% sure.

          yes, I was aiming exactly for the ambiguity between the 2 meanings of CBT.