• SharkEatingBreakfast
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    9 months ago

    No joke: guy tried to pull this with me, except I’m not blind. I do, however, have this thing where if you change your look (new hair, heavy makeup, whatever), my brain basically registers you as a different person.

    So we met on a dating site, had gone out, I wasn’t really feeling it, so I wished him well and moved on. Matched with another guy almost 2 months later, and he seemed cool so we set up a date.

    It took me a while, but I swore I knew him from somewhere, just couldn’t put my finger on it, but then I realized: he smelled familiar. That’s how I figured it out.

    Dude darkened his hair, wore sunglasses, swear to god: wore fake facial piercings, and changed his overall style.

    He “wanted another chance” and wanted to show that he “could change for [me]!”

    No. No no no. No thank you. This ain’t a romantic comedy with you in the starring role. Goodbye.

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      9 months ago

      I have the same issue. If you don’t look exactly like I expect and you’re in the same place I expect then I can’t really place you. I can see friends at the grocery store and have no idea who they are.

      A friend of mine cut off her hair and dyed it. I saw her out and she said hello. We talked for a minute and I had no idea who the hell she was, so I politely excused myself thinking it was just someone I had met once or some drunk person striking up a conversation. Later that night I texted her and asked where she was. She walked up to me and asked what I needed. That’s the only way I put it together.

      I have never told her this.

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        9 months ago

        The fine line between creepy and romantic is how attracted to the person you end up being.

        “Fickle females love sneaky creeps, as long as they’re good-looking! Tee-hee!”

        Fuck off with that shit.

        Creep shit is creep shit. End of story.

        You’re the kind of person women warn each other about.

      • NateSwift@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        9 months ago

        I think most of us would put some hair dye in and wear some shades to get a second chance with someone we really wanted an actual shot with.

        No. I think you’re just assuming other people would do the creepy shit you would. This would never have even crossed my mind.