I did this once. My class was on a booze cruise, I had lost the keycard to my cabin, was gloriously drunk and all my buddies were somewhere. I ended up chatting with a group of girls in the cabin next door and I had had a crush on one of them for years.
Suddenly the other girls had to leave for some reason and there were just the two of us. I complained that I had nowhere to sleep since I lost my keycard, my crush looked me in the eyes for a long time and said “There is this bed, you know. You could sleep here.”
“I couldn’t possibly bother you with this, I’ll go and try find my friends. Thanks for the chat!” was my only response. I remember clearly how dumbfounded she looked as I left and waved goodbye.
I realized later what I had done. I have never forgiven myself.
I did this once. My class was on a booze cruise, I had lost the keycard to my cabin, was gloriously drunk and all my buddies were somewhere. I ended up chatting with a group of girls in the cabin next door and I had had a crush on one of them for years.
Suddenly the other girls had to leave for some reason and there were just the two of us. I complained that I had nowhere to sleep since I lost my keycard, my crush looked me in the eyes for a long time and said “There is this bed, you know. You could sleep here.”
“I couldn’t possibly bother you with this, I’ll go and try find my friends. Thanks for the chat!” was my only response. I remember clearly how dumbfounded she looked as I left and waved goodbye.
I realized later what I had done. I have never forgiven myself.
You fool. You damn fool!
I just felt this pain to my core. Are we fucking stupid?
Better than to risk making a woman uncomfortable or worse: charged with sexual harassment.
Nearly all evidence seems to point to the answer “Yes”.