I’m wanting to run a little server for some friends, and one has went “Farmer’s Delight is essential!” and another with “Create is essential!”, but otherwise we’re flexible on what’s included.
I tend to like questpacks, but honestly that’s a nice-to-have
Society: Sunlit Valley is a Stardew Valley inspired pack that includes both. The Create stuff comes in a bit later in progression, but it’s because automation is valuable. The pack has a lot of changes from base Minecraft that focus gameplay on the Stardew economic cycle with seasons and crops.
Uncharted Expeditions had a fun progression through different dimensions (some based on Alex’s Caves) with nicely balanced Create and merging Create and food to make some demon summoning milkshakes for important resources.
Create and Farmer’s Delight are very popular mods so they’re in a ton of packs, so that wouldn’t really restrict your choice. I’d start looking to other aspects to influence your choice, like whether people like progression or whether they want to just use whatever parts of the pack they like the most and ignore the rest.
You can search for packs with specific mods at https://www.modpackindex.com/modpack/finder.