Basically, I’m 25M and never had a real job. 2 days ago, my father just had a CVA and it’s at death’s door, having been the only income for our family his whole life. While he was a god awful parent to me, he did give us everything we needed, and he was a great dad to my sisters.

Now that he’s about to die, we not only lost our only provider, but he’s leaving us with a huge debt to pay (over 3M in local coin, around 3k USD) due to all the loans he took the last 2 years to buy fancy stuff for himself and my sisters, and being the older brother, it falls on me to bring the food to the table.

I honestly don’t know what to do at this point, I feel overwhelmed by all the sudden responsibilities, and running away isn’t an option, I can’t bring myself to leave my sisters and mother behind.

  • SaberKazdOP
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    20 hours ago

    I just asked my mom, he took MANY loans from different banks to supposedly “sustain the household”, but ultimately burned through the money buying the PC, fridge, etc. Aparently, it’s way more than I had knowledge of, since I knew about the latest ones, but she told this has been happening since 2 years ago, and it checks out with the when we changed phones, my nephew’s TV, a bike and other things.

    Also, mom refuses to talk with any attorney until after he dies, saying it would only jinx it. I sort of understand it, she’s still cleaning the bedroom and clothes to bring him back, even after the doctor told us it’s not likely he’ll survive a week.

    EDIT: also, the govt here apparently passed a law many years ago that prohibits nullifying debts due to people taking advantage of it to make huge buying sprees in the name of elder people, and then getting to keep the assets due to the debtor dying before they finish paying. I’m not sure about how true this is, but I do remember seeing something about it on the news when I was younger.