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  • It makes absolutely no sense for advertising to switch all advertising to Spanish from a single day of recording. This would mean they disregarded ALL of the meta data they had on them. Location, things they visited, pages they visited etc. I’ve been on vacation and spoken a different language for two weeks and it didn’t change the language of my ads. It just makes no sense to do that from a single data point, when all else contradicts them being/speaking Spanish.




  • Arguing that the female version makes it a second choice and then erasing it completely makes absolutely no sense. If german was a language with no difference in gender this might work, but that’s not what it is. We have female forms for most nouns so this will not work. A gender asterisk includes all genders. The argument that it puts female form second is also week as in german the emphasis of a word is usually on the last syllable.

    Like it or not, our way of talking and writing is excluding people and is biasing our perception as to which things (especially jobs) are mainly male and what are female. There are enough studies about language and gender bias out there.

    Words have power and we should take it seriously.



  • NessD@lemmy.worldtoMemes@lemmy.mlIs this for real? (Please see text)
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    These laws are only applicable in two of Germany’s 16 states and only for state officials and authorities as well as schools. The other states mostly critize those states for infringing on equality rights. It just bans the use of gender related punctuations in written documents and school exams. It’s not well thought out.

    You can still use gender neutral terms (Lehrende instead of Lehrer*innen). It’s a big deal as those states do it to cater to right-wing voters and fish them from the nazi-party AFD.

    Btw Binnen-I is LehrerInnen. Other gender neutral notations are a “*”, “_” or “:”





  • I’ve been through this recently (4 years relationship and 2 years not in a relationship. Officially friends, but in reality very much in a relationship). She was very dependent on me showing her that I’m still there for her. She started dating and I got pushed aside. Her two relationships were very short so I never figured out what was happening until her now fiance came into the picture.

    The first few months it was kinda ok, he lived 35 miles away and was busy renovating a house. I tried to have her back as she was always doubting his love and motives. In the same time she was involving me more emotionally. I tried setting boundaries as were weren’t a couple anymore. The safer she felt with her boyfriend, the more we thought. At one point, we slept together. I was still into her and she always pledged, that any relationship was already at an end if she cheated on someone. Of course she didn’t end it and tried to manipulating me into staying quiet to my friends. Long story short: She didn’t tell him and laterfelt comfortable with him as he invited her to live together in his house and she basically cut ties with me.

    I told him in a letter some months later as it weighed on my conscience (he is a really nice guy and I hadn’t slept with her if I had known she wouldn’t break up with him. It was one of the key moral things she always preached.) I don’t really know what happened after that, but I know they’re getting married two years into their relationship soon.

    I felt the same way as you. She is a sweet, kind and loveable person. She hasn’t been diagnosed with BPD, but working in the mental health field for two years now it is obvious. She was going to therapy which seemed to help heaps, but her therapist moved and that ended that. I saw her pain everyday. I know why I (still) love her so much, but her mental health issues are also part of her and realizing her diagnosis helped me understand how I could get entangled in all of this and why I’m still emotionally invested. BPD is an disorder that draws other people into the illness. I don’t blame her for what has happened. I just needed to set boundaries.

    This is the only thing you can do: Set boundaries and communicate them. Don’t let her step over them. But in my experience: As soon as you do, your relationship cannot work anymore. So my actual advice: Cut ties and hope, therapy helps. If she’s really interested in getting better and you as a person, you paths will cross.

    Most important: Don’t lose track of yourself or you’ll get emotionally entangled again.