Some friends I just can’t shake

hard enough

around the neck

with a firm grip

  • BringMeTheDiscoKing@lemmy.ca
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    10 months ago

    I have a couple of conservative friends. We just don’t talk about politics or the issues of the day. Surprisingly it’s not that hard.

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      10 months ago

      You know, there’s so many people I have tried this with. They just won’t stop bringing it up even when it is completely unrelated to what we’re doing. One of them told me he feels smart because when that comes up I usually walk away to avoid the endless drama and he took that to mean that his position and opinions had so confounded me that leaving was my only way to respond.

      Stuff like “yeah I think religion should be enshrined in the Constitution and everyone should have to live by our rules” and “if women don’t want to have kids they should keep their legs closed”.

      Like, even if I thought engaging had any chance of working it’s just such braindead regurgitated Fox talking points that I wouldn’t engage anyway. Just waiting for these people to get everything they want and suffer for it.

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        10 months ago

        A distressing number of people seem to have inhibition problems.

        A further distressing number are narcissists.

        We shouldn’t be surprised though, that’s exactly how they were programmed. The more it became acceptable to pander to our baser instincts, the more profitable it became and the more profit driven concerns did it. The more screen time we had in our upbringing (back when we called it ‘tv’) the more likely we are to have taken on the programming of exceptionalism and decide that what’s good for everyone isn’t what’s good for us.

        I don’t necessarily think it was planned that way, but the people who thought that it might be the result were relegated to the fringe.

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      10 months ago

      No no no, don’t you see? You need to cutoff all communication with them and get them arrested and ruin their lives bro.

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        10 months ago

        I mean, I’m sorry, but if they believe that abortion is baby murder, black people are predisposed to being criminals, poor people don’t deserve to have healthcare, and trans kids should have to live in a miserable hell that makes them want to commit suicide, I’m not going to just “not talk about it” and stay friends with them. If your morals are that fucked, I can’t in good conscience call you a friend.

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      10 months ago

      You must have better friends than I.

      Every conservative I know or knew is walking around with pent-up anger, seemingly ready explode over whatever their handlers in the media have railed them up against that day. I guess that is what keeps them active at the ballot box and prevents them from taking a step back, calming down, thinking and questioning the narrative. Either way, it became pretty much impossible to have any kind of outing with these people present.

      It’s gotten really tiresome to even look for common ground anymore. Things that were fine just yesterday suddenly make them foam at the mouth. And lately, the persecution complex, too.

      • BringMeTheDiscoKing@lemmy.ca
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        10 months ago

        Hmm part of it might be that I’m in eastern Canada where there are still ‘progessive conservatives’ and people don’t seem to care so much about politics anyway.

        A world away from the USA in terms of media influence.

    • BuckFigotstheThird@lemmy.world
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      10 months ago

      So, you’re saying you are okay with hanging out with people who are completely okay with the oppression and marginalization of minorities. You choose to keep people around who want other people to loose thier rights. You keep people in your life that support book banning and information suppression.

      I would not hang out with you.