• Pregnenolone@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    Guys who refuse to wash their arse because it’s “gay”.

    The sheer amount of self-hatred, insecurity and homophobia caused by toxic masculinity and shitty upbringings is astounding that you’d rather have swamp ass than be worried you’re gay.

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      Not saying it doesn’t happen but I’ve seen this said a few times now, and have never heard of anyone who actually refuses to clean their arse. Have I just lived a sheltered life or what?

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        I did. I was talking to some guys and somehow my bidet came up and everyone found it pretty amusing and “gay”. I said something like: well imagine you accidentally touch dogshit or something and then wipe it off with a piece of paper and go: well that’s good enough until my next shower.
        One guy said: what do you mean, next shower? And i said, that’s your next opportunity to clean your ass with water and soap. Where everyone seems to agree that was also for gays.
        It’s extra funny to me that in a previous conversation one of the guys said his girlfriend hates giving head. I wonder why mr. Poopy butthole.

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        If you search for “boyfriend refuses to wash ass reddit” on Google there are plenty of stories for you to eat your dinner over.

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            lol actually just look. Literally tens-hundreds of stories. It’s not a global conspiracy or group false memory. I get the Reddit hate but that’s just silly.

            Edit: some of you struggle. Y’all understand that I can lie about a personal experience much more easily than I could lie about the combined hundreds of experiences of mutually individual people on the internet. How is it that until I’ve personally experienced it it must be false? Real cream of the crop with you lot.

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              “I question this comment, do you have any actual expirence”?

              You: “sure, just look at all these other comments over there”.

              This is indeed very silly, but not because of reddit being involved.

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                I sincerely apologize for providing evidence of my claim that some men don’t wash their ass. I’ll remember for next time that I specifically have to know men that don’t wash their ass for my claim to have any validity, or else theKalash will not believe me.

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                  providing evidence

                  Uff …

                  This really speaks volumns about what social media has done to the mind of some people.

                  You really don’t see the problem when being asked for “acutal exprience” and someone unironically points to a comment on the internet? That’s literally the opposite of actual exprience.

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                    I would say the issue is more of, if you don’t trust what someone on Reddit, a message board, blog, etc/whatever - then what difference is it going to make if someone on Lemmy says “Yes, I have firsthand experience”? Obviously it’s one thing if a friend, or someone I personally know, asks for “actual” experience vs someone on the Internet… But this isn’t the case (I’m going to assume you don’t know the person you replied to). I’d even potentially get it if there was only one random comment on some random website - however that’s not the case either.

                    I couldn’t even make the argument of there being more implicit trust in the Lemmy space… Because a lot of us came from Reddit anyways.

                    So what difference is it actually going to make?

                    And yes, for the record, I do have “actual experience” with this - just in case somehow I’m more trustworthy than tons of people who have posted on Reddit (or some other site).

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          If I wanted to read reddit, I wouldn’t be on kbin. And I was asking if they, specifically, had a first hand account.

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        It’s usually partners complaining that they stink because they don’t wash themselves properly.

        Some guys openly just admit it because they just don’t realise that it’s not normal. So fearful that they won’t put their hand anywhere near their own ass.

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      An ex of mine refused to wipe and would shower after every poop, claiming tp was ineffective, BUT WOULD ALSO refuse to purchase a bidet; the toxic masculinity here was thinking he was outsmarting us all while also contaminating every shower he had ever used

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        Washing your ass isn’t contaminating the shower, that’s almost as bizarre as thinking using tp makes you gay.

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        Washing your ass under the shower doesn’t “contaminate” it. Sure, use toilet paper first, then go wash yourself. But you would be surprised how much shit (literally) is in the air. It’s everywhere, even on your toothbrush.