• Otome-chan@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    The “q” in lgbtq often refers to the q slur, and it’s a newer acronym largely used by progressives. conservative lgbt people either stick with the classic lgbt, or in recent years have started using lgb as a way of distancing themselves from the transgender movement.

    Not saying it’s impossible for conservatives to use lgbtq, but it’s rare IMO (speaking as someone on the conservative side in the lgbt community).

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      I’ve got mine so fuck you mentality… I’m a straight male but I support the shit out of everyone as long as they aren’t shitting on people and distancing yourself from our Trans brothers and sister is awful and you know it… we are all people in the end and we need love and support…

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        You say “you support the shit out of everyone” except that’s logically and literally impossible. There are groups with conflicting and contradictory worldviews, and to support one is to reject the other.

        I’m not distancing myself from trans people. I am trans. I’m distancing myself from the transgender movement, which is mostly not made up of transsexuals.

        I do not and cannot support the transgender movement because their foundational worldview is that transsexuals like myself do not exist. And until they yield on that topic, I cannot support them without denying my own existence.

        I try to love and support everyone, but that means disagreeing with harmful pseudoscientific ideologies like the transgender movement. It means distancing myself from lgbtq progressives. Because those ideologies and worldviews are harmful to trans people.

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          I have no idea what you think “transgender” and “transsexual” mean, but I can almost guarantee it’s not what other people mean when they say those things.

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            When I say transsexual I refer to people with the medical condition transsexualism that’s been known and studied for over 100 years now.

            When I say “transgender” I refer to those people who “identify as transgender”. It appears to be a political movement, and not one I agree with.

            There’s a great effort by the transgender community and transvestites as a whole to appropriate transsexualism and deny transsexuals exist, as I mentioned in my previous post. Naturally my usage of the word transsexual will differ from theirs, because they are literally trying to deny transsexuals exist.

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              Yep, what I said then.

              This is a good example of why people who identify as conservative shouldn’t be trying to moderate LGBTQ+ spaces, even if they identify somewhere in that spectrum themselves. Conservatism at its heart is fundamentally focused on determining how other people do not belong to your “in” group and do not deserve the same privileges and rights as you do. Put more famously, “Conservatism consists of exactly one proposition, to wit: There must be in-groups whom the law protects but does not bind, alongside out-groups whom the law binds but does not protect.”

              You’re not quite doing it here with your really badly couched transmedicalist take and your skirting around actually saying what you mean, but we all know what you mean so I’m not sure why you’re being so coy about it.

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                I support protection for all kinds of people, both transsexual and transvestite. What I care about on this topic though is clarity and recognition of individuals, and being able to clearly talk about different demographics. That’s simply impossible to do if you try to use the same word to refer to entirely different kinds of people and different situations.

                How can you speak about homosexuality, if you call straight people “gay” and “homosexual”? it’s impossible!

                You accuse me of transmedicalism, but I’d argue against this accusation. “transmedicalism” is a word that’s used to describe people with a different view, relating to gender identity and gender dysphoria with gender identity disorder, and is unrelated to transsexuals and our issues/needs. many transmedicalists also deny transsexuals exist.

                As long as there’s clarity in speech, and a recognition of my medical condition (transsexualism) without conflation or appropriation, then I’m happy. I don’t mind supporting others with different situations. but I won’t yield and forfeit my ability to speak about myself and my medical situation.

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          Yeah I think I miss read your comment as saying you wanted it lgb… my bad I assumed something and didn’t fully read what ya said…my comment is deleted somehow wish it was still up anyhoo I’m super confused on the nuance on this because ive never heard any transgender or transsexual person in my life not support the other or say they dont exist but Ive only had a handful in my life at different times so you probably know more about the community… just be supportive and accepting and your alright in my book… and honestly Ive never once heard what you are saying come out of any transgender or transsexual friends mouths your the first Ive heard of it… very confused on why someone would say you don’t exist cause you do

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            Well I’m pretty careful when I use the acronym. Personally I consider myself, and support “LGBT”. There’s an “LGB” movement that I find myself aligned with, albeit disagreeing with. Then there are the people who use “LGBTQ” or “LGBTQIA” and other such things, and I find myself opposed to them.

            ive never heard any transgender or transsexual person in my life not support the other or say they dont exist but Ive only had a handful in my life at different times so you probably know more about the community… just be supportive and accepting and your alright in my book.

            Yes, it’s unfortunately the case that on this topic there’s a few different worldviews/beliefs and they contradict each other, which leads to a lot of hostility and upset feelings in both directions. I agree that we should try to be kind, understanding, and supportive. But to do that means I need to disagree with some worldviews that may end up hurting some people’s feelings.

            nd honestly Ive never once heard what you are saying come out of any transgender or transsexual friends mouths your the first Ive heard of it… very confused on why someone would say you don’t exist cause you do

            The issue is because many people with transvestism conditions identify themselves as “transgender” and hold the belief that they have a “gender identity” that differs from their natal sex. In many cases they argue that this is due to having an oppositely sexed brain. The problem is that that view is simply untrue. There are sexed brains, and there are people with oppositely sexed brains, but that condition is transsexualism, not transvestism. And so these transgender/transvestite people try to argue it applies to them, and then deny that people outside of their situation (namely transsexuals) exist.

            One of their big ideas involves “gender dysphoria”. They believe that gender dysphoria arises due to the sex of the brain differing from the sex of the body, and thus dysphoria results. However, transsexuals like myself prove this to be untrue; as we do not experience “gender dysphoria” (or any other transvestism symptom) at any point.

            Due to this, these people often start saying I’m “not actually trans” or that I’m “being a bigot” or that I “actually do have such symptoms and am lying/mistaken” and so on. a very hostile response.

            I’d really like there to be some mutual understanding and arrival of views, but I don’t think it’s likely the way things are going…

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        1 year ago

        As I said, the q often refers to the slur, which many more conservative minded lgbt people are opposed to. in practice, the use of the acronym just ends up kinda being correlated with particular mindsets/views.

        It’s not a hard rule or anything just a general tendency I see.