• notapantsday@feddit.de
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    1 year ago

    Some people just don’t know how to start a conversation and will say anything that comes to their head.

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      1 year ago

      Or, they’ll be like the OP and just ignore a new coworker entirely and never even say hello, which is also kinda rude and makes people think you’re mad all the time.

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        maybe they’re introverted and want to avoid small talk? can’t blame them

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          Sure, but it’s still kinda rude and makes people think they’re unfriendly, even if they don’t mean it that way.

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            is it really rude to just exist

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              I guess fuck me for being shy, right? How rude and selfish of me to just keep my head down and do my job.

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                Same. Outside from a quick hello (and I mean quick) to people I’ve deemed friendly, I’ll only talk if the job I’m doing demands it. I won’t be rude if someone asks me something, but the answer will also be quick and to the point.

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            Just because you’re bad at smalltalk doesn’t mean you’re entitled to mine.

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                Why is being bad at smalltalk being selfish? You mistake skill for intent, and that’s pathetic social skill. You shouldn’t be giving anyone advice.

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                    On the contrary, being so entitled that you think you deserve other peoples’ initiation is selfish. You might have the impulse to spout to other people, but a lot of people don’t, and they just do their job. Why isn’t the other coworker rude for not making small talk for 2 weeks? Why isn’t it that the other coworker is only making “small talk” to (insulting) someone else to make themselves feel better?