Anyone have any advice for navigating coming out as bisexual recently. I just moved states so I haven’t been able to get a good grasp on the social scene yet, is there maybe a way of thinking about dating preferences without actually dating?
I’ve thought about going to a gay bar but I’ve never been to any and I really don’t know what to do.
What do you mean when you say think ‘about dating preferences without actually dating’?
How do know what kind of people I like, nosurere really
What’s your apprehension about going out and meeting people to help you find what you’re looking for?
I mean by all means jot down a couple of deal breakers for yourself when considering a partner (I.e. non-smoker, doesn’t physically abuse me, no drug addiction etc) but there’s only so far you can go with theorising a partner.
People will surprise you in my experience. Behaviour or characteristics you thought you really didn’t like suddenly becomes irrelevant when it’s the right person.
Going out… I’m a home body and have dealt with a lot of psychological crap over the years. Right now I’m in a good spot and need to make up for lost time socially, I have virtually no experience
To me it sounds like you’re saying this:
Hey Lemmy, I want to learn how to ride a bicycle but I don’t actually want to ride a bicycle as part of learning how to ride one. I also don’t want to make any mistakes learning how to ride a bicycle.
If someone came up to you and said that, would you think that’s reasonable?
Exactly, it’s paradoxical and frustrating because I’m trying to do something that doesn’t make any sense
Also I’ve moved around a fair bit so again, so making socialconnectionns has never been a strong suit