• captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    But it doesn’t have to be that way. I was a shut in once and started going out. I’m still not good at it, but I’m getting better. I can’t go back to being a shut in. I need my in person socialization on a regular basis.

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      1 year ago

      You saw that you were in plato’s cave. But the majority of people either just haven’t figured out that online socializing is an illusion or they aren’t self aware enough to ever figure it out.

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        1 year ago

        It isn’t necessarily an illusion. I have very real friendships thanks to the internet, but it’s insufficient on its own and lacks key components that your brain needs. It’s like junk food, you may feel like you’re getting everything, and it may be giving you some of what you need, maybe even in over abundance. But it needs to be part instead of most of all.

        And yeah I talk about this openly for a reason. For those feeling alienated and isolated, there is hope and it starts by going to things and standing awkwardly in the corner until you either work up the courage to talk to someone or someone talks to you. And you just keep doing it.

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      1 year ago

      And good on you. I am glad you were able to break out of your depressive spiral.