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      You can afford a house in most states on about $100k. She’s just a single mom, don’t assume she doesn’t have a solid education.

      Sexists in here, smh.

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        Person 1: “She couldn’t get this much money”

        Person 2: “Here are ways she actually could”

        Person 3: “SEXIST!”

        This is so ridiculous conversation

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            So WHAT is it, then?

            If someone said “single FATHER of 4”, then would this conversation not be sexist?

            Because I honestly don’t get it.

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              Assuming incompetence or financial difficulties based on gender, race, or age is a form of prejudice.

              As is assuming she could only have achieved it through luck.

              The single mother in question was outbid by an investment firm busy commodifying housing. Any other assumptions about her financial situation are just soft bigotry, but Viking can’t admit that barely a flaw to himself because then he wouldn’t be a morally perfect internet champion of the downtrodden.

              It’s really not that hard to understand.

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                I’m sorry, but it IS hard to understand. No one in this chain said she was poor BECAUSE she is a woman. Just that she is poor, just like a single father would be…

                …and the argument has been “well they could budget” vs “you can’t budget yourself out of this shit, it’s reality for these people”. And by “these people” they don’t mean “women”, but “people who have to take care of multiple children with one income”

                Honestly, this whole thread is YOU ranting about genders, everyone else is talking socio-economic status. THAT’S why is hard to understand.

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                  Viking commented she could be in a position to buy a house out of luck, be it a lottery or, presumably, inheritance.

                  I comment, half seriously, that he’s ignoring that she could just have a good education and a decent paying job, to which he considers an appropriate response to be “uuuuuhmmm AKSHUALLY most single moms are poor.”

                  Thank you for proving you’re just engaged in team picking nonsense, and didn’t understand the conversation, like everyone else other than Viking, whose ego simply can’t admit his assumptions display prejudice.

                  He seems like he’s in the right place, I’m sure he’ll figure it out one day, or at least do a better job with real people and not hypotheticals.

                  With any luck, one day you’ll also be able to read a statement as it is and stop getting mad at strawmen.

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                    Did you even realize that the link viking used was for single PARENTS, not mothers?

                    Most single PARENTS are poor.

                    FFS the projection in this comment is strong. Just re-read your last 3 paragraphs, and switch ‘viking’ with ‘dragon’. Maybe one day you will be able to look past your sexisim and read content for what it is.

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        $100k is almost double the average income of single mothers (of ANY education level) though, and, again on average, more than a third of their income go towards childcare.

        Add the fact that someone with 4 children would pay MORE than average in childcare and other expenses including ridiculously high rent and there REALLY isn’t enough left over to ever afford a house anywhere but the least desirable parts of the least desirable states.

        I’m not being sexist, you’re downplaying the ongoing national emergency of deep systemic poverty.