• kase@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    I do that sometimes, and I definitely agree with everything you said.

    But… ok so what happens is I’m talking to somebody and they remember all this personal stuff about me and they seem really cool and I’m like I don’t know you so I ask their name and they tell me but then SOMETIMES what happens is it doesn’t ring a bell AT ALL and I end up not saying anything in response and staring at them like an idiot because now I know their name but still have no memories of this person prior to the last five minutes they’ve been talking to me and then it’s awkward and they get disappointed and I just. Wyxbpshxjwdj

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      1 year ago

      Then it doesn’t ring a bell.

      People remember different things because different things are important to different people.

      If the issue I have with remembering names, (I have tried multiple tricks to try and change that with no success) is going to upset someone who did remember details of a previous conversation, then the relationship is not going to have much success.

      If I am colour-blind and a person gets upset about it, there is nothing I can do and the problem is with them, not me.

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        1 year ago

        Yeah, fair point. The awkwardness definitely isn’t as big of a deal as it feels like in the moment.

        It’s still nightmare fuel imo, lol, but everybody’s different. I agree that it’s no reason to feel guilty or upset with someone, for sure.