Outside of romantic partners I don’t think you “need” anyone else.
Friendships are not important.
My guy, go make some friends. Get out there, join a club, lots of games nights and meetup groups out there. Rationalising not needing friends is generally a clear sign you need new friends.
This is stupid ragebait. Op wont even respond to comments, classic boring ass trolling.
Block him!
Do you need friends, as in you will die without them? No. They are not essential to life. But humans are social creatures and having someone in your life that you feel safe enough to open up to, who can share in your interests and hobbies and who can be there for you when you are not doing good, is an extremely good thing to have.
Like I can totally survive without my left arm but life is going to be a lot more difficult. Same kind of concept but with mental health.
Wouldn’t that be covered by the romantic partner usually?
A romantic partner is ideally also a friend. They can often handle both, but they’re just one friend and that’s putting a lot of weight on their shoulders. And things in life change. What happens if your romantic partner gets seriously ill and you can’t confide in them anymore? What if the romantic partner is the person you’re having issues with and you need an outside point of view? Not everything is so minimalist in real life. Good luck trying to keep it minimalist like you’re proposing, but life often has other ideas.
What if the romantic partner is the person you’re having issues with and you need an outside point of view?
Counselor or therapist? I’m not talking about my personal romantic issues with anyone else really. Friends aren’t qualified for that and it’s none of their business.
Recently found the first friends that i put that level of trust into and I can not explain how much it is way different than a therapist. Your partner holds a special place, but that also comes with alot of its own issues. For me there was alot of extra pressure purely because they are the one i care about the most. That hindered me from being as open as i wanted in certain situations and could not stay true to neither them nor myself. Having friends that you trust enough to do that with but where the stakes are “lower” makes that way easier. A therapist could do that but its usually way more time consuming, expensive and less fulfilling than having people that already know and thay respect you to whom you can open up and discuss with. It is also just way more “real”, heart-to-heart and human in a way a therapist can not be.
If you are going to limit yourself to what your romantic partner is interested in, I suppose it could work, but feels very confined.
I have many hobbies and interests not shared in full by any romantic partner I’ve ever had, though there have been some notable exceptions.
One woman I dated for many years rode motorcycles and snowboards.
Another shared my interest in Fromsoft video games.
I doubt anyone I would seriously date at 50 is going to share my passion for skateboarding, though I’d love to be proven wrong on that one.
I don’t have many close friends, and only two live within visiting distance. Most have spread across the country. We stay in touch with a phone call every month or two, catching up, sharing stories, discussing common interests. The ones in town I’ll see maybe once a month as well, for dinner, drinks, or a motorcycle ride.
They all bring ideas and experiences into my life I wouldn’t otherwise have, and by maintaining friendships with a wide variety in background and education, it keeps me from becoming too narrow minded or stunted.
Could I live my life without my friends? Sure. Would I want to? Absolutely not.
A romantic partner is one type of relationship often with the extra weight of that person being a romantic partner. A romantic partner ideally is a life partner you want to share the entirety of your life with. It’s a lot heavier than a friend.
A romantic partner is someone special who you will be spending the vast majority of your time with. Someone who you might star a family with.
A friend is less heavy, more casual. A friend is someone who you ideally can trust and talk to and who will support you and you them, but is not someone you are physically attracted to, or has an interest in being romantic with you or vice versa.
A healthy romantic partnership usually starts off as a friendship, and then over time turns into a romantic one. You can’t just meet a stranger and say "let’s spend our entire lives together, and have a family, and live together. At least not a romantic partnership you want to actually work.
https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/surgeon-general-social-connection-advisory.pdf
Not having friends has similar health impacts to smoking 15 cigarettes a day. Making friends makes you physically and mentally healthier, gives connections that can help you out of rough patches in your life and into opportunities.
You ‘can’ live without them, but probably not as long as you would have otherwise.
I don’t “need” a romantic partner. I need human connection of some kind but maybe not everyone does
Even when it comes to personality disorders (or other brain stuff) I would say there’s still a distinction between need and want.
A lot of cause for isolation is circumstance (and difficulties relating to socializing), so it’s very likely that a lot of terminally-friendless people would disagree with OP’s (supposed) attitude on this.
I mean, personally I want to enjoy being alive, and I enjoy being alive when I have friends. I don’t care about having a romantic partner.
I got no sources, but I’ve regularly heard people claim that depression and similar mental health issues have an equal or worse health impact than smoking or other “soft” drug abuse.
What are you talking about
That depression, even without suicide, shortens lifespans as much as cancer or disease
Your shit takes are boring
Can an individual survive without friends? Definitely.
Can the human species survive without friends? Probably not.
i wish i had close friends. a romantic partner would be nice too, but friendships are better.
Community is absolutely important. We are stronger together.
Loneliness, or issues caused by loneliness kills 100 people an hour. You need about 12 good friends to have enough connection in your life.
yes people need friends. i need friends. ive tried the whole “get all your needs met by my romantic partner” thing. it works fine when times are good, but as soon as theres serious conflict or stress you need other people for support. your partner isnt perfect and neither are you, so in those bad times you share together you will see the worst of each other, and your needs wont be met. in time this breeds resentment and will lead to the end of the relationship. its a sad, lonely, empty existence going through life without friends you trust. you might not feel like it right now but eventually you will learn.
I talk to my partner when there’s a problem. I don’t need to share that with someone else, it’s none of their business.
If someone doesn’t have a romantic partner, they shouldn’t explain their problems or tell anyone about their problems.
You said that, not me
They shouldn’t even speak to other people, right
