So, as you probably all know, last Sunday was the international womens day. To celebrate some people organized a “no mens” party (everyone was welcome except men). So I got all dressed up (wore a very cozy wool pullover, a skirt and some leggings), did some makeup and went there, since I was helping out at the bar. Another thing I should is, that I am just 3 months into HRT and therefore am not anywhere near passing (especially since I am very tall and have quite a deep voice). Since we were two people at the bar and there werent that many people I quickly went to get some food. So I went to the next “restaurant”, ordered and sat down to wait. this place was focused on “takeaway food” and is therefore quite small. There was this one man, that sat there with a glass of beer in a hand and this motherfucker did not even try to hide, that he was staring at me. He literally turned his head whenever I moved. I guess it wasnt in a sexual way, but I guess he has never seen a “man” wear a skirt and leggings. He did not do anything else, but I was never so glad I could leave a place.
I am also in the “hopefully on the way to passing” stage of transitioning, and the vast majority of stares I get are from older white women. Rarely is it a non white woman, and even rarely is it a man, exlusively white men, and all of them are exclusively 50+. It’s fun to smile brightly, toss my hair, kiss my wife, and watch for their reaction 😆
Maybe this is bad advice, but I will genuinely smile and wave at people who are staring/glaring at me. Or if we’re close enough, I’ll literally say hi and kinda start a conversation. “Oh hi! How are you doing??”
They often don’t know what to do, because in their head you were kind of a figment of their imagination, they never expect you to acknowledge them and actually be pleasant, because they’re so miserable.
Often they’ll just look the other way with their bitchface, but then it’s quite funny that they can’t even handle someone being kind.
Like, do you think I can’t see you looking at me (how stupid are you)? Hi!
haha, I love this so much
As much as possible, I pretend they’re just being friendly or I used to know them. That’s my acting motivation.
It really fucks them up. lol
Sometimes it shocks them out of their staring and you actually talk to them too. Which is especially funny because they begrudgingly go along with it.
I love to kindly torture dickheads, and if it works out maybe they can stop staring at people.