The white ground is going out to the pole and the green one is my grounding rod, should the green one not be bonded to the pannel not the bus bar?
Note not an electrician, but my copper water lines feel live and a few switches in my house give us shocks

Wow. Just, wow.
Well, glad you figured it out to be here today.
I’ve seen similar with an electric stove, someone had attached the cord incorrectly, so occasionally you’d get a shock touching it. It’s been a long time, I guess they flipped neutral and ground.