• mosiacmango@lemm.ee
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    10
    arrow-down
    11
    ·
    edit-2
    1 year ago

    Youre afraid to save a persons life because there is a near zero chance that a very unlikely hypothetical situation may occur? Youre okay with letting someone die because you might get verbally chided, or worse, have someone misunderstand and be slightly rough with you? Wow.

    I honestly can’t imagine being this scared of the world.

    • ArbiterXero@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      15
      arrow-down
      7
      ·
      1 year ago

      You can’t say “near zero” you don’t have the numbers.

      It depends entirely on circumstance.

      And you know that.

      But it’s wonderful that you want to judge me as a keyboard warrior. I applaud how tough you are. Have a nice day.

      • mosiacmango@lemm.ee
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        5
        arrow-down
        12
        ·
        edit-2
        1 year ago

        Please, give me any numbers that show people have been harassed, threatened or injured while performing CPR on a women.

        You consider it an unlikely but possible threat. I would like to see what data informs that threat to you.

        I expect its none, and instead you just want to feel persecuted because “women standing up for themselves in modern society makes me scared, so im going to pretend thats why i wont help a women that’s dying.”

        Again, fear driven and sad.

        • ArbiterXero@lemmy.world
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          6
          arrow-down
          5
          ·
          1 year ago

          We’re both aware that the numbers don’t exist and aren’t kept.

          Suggesting that’s a fault in my argument but not yours is asking me to provide evidence to prove your point wrong. “Burden of proof” fallacy if you will.

          But that’s not the point. Plenty of people get accused of impropriety for doing less than lifting a woman’s shirt…. And if I have to apply a defibrillator, it’s not going to do much if I don’t get it under her shirt.

          We both know that reaching under her shirt can be perceived poorly especially if someone doesn’t notice the defibrillator.

          But I’ll back up my statements with references

          https://www.heart.org/en/news/2020/11/23/why-people-fear-performing-cpr-on-women-and-what-to-do-about-it

          Will you do the same? Or will you continue to ask me for information to back up your arguments?

          You made the suggestion that it was “near zero” and now you’re asking me for proof that it isn’t near zero.

          • mosiacmango@lemm.ee
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            6
            arrow-down
            6
            ·
            edit-2
            1 year ago

            Youre making the claim that there is some danger here, and your defense is “I can’t find any proof there is danger here?”

            The simple truth is that there is no danger in this circumstance, but if you accepted that you would have no argument for not assisting a person dying.

            Your article points to a 45%/39% male to female assistance rate. The article doesnt give exact numbers, but says some women are less likely to perform CPR on women for fear of harming them. So if we say of that 6%, 3% are women that dont perform CPR for the above, we have 3% of men who are afraid to try to save a womans life because of a non existent threat. It sounds like youre one of those 3% of fearful men.

            Id ask for the dying womans sake, that you push past your fear and help keep another person alive. Be strong, for them. Be brave, for yourself.

            Fear is the mindkiller. Dont let it control you. Do the right thing instead.

            • ArbiterXero@lemmy.world
              link
              fedilink
              arrow-up
              5
              arrow-down
              5
              ·
              1 year ago

              Okay so you can’t see any danger in someone getting the wrong perception when I am removing parts of the shirt of an unconscious woman to put on a defibrillator? Not even if they don’t see the defibrillator?

              You’re either not capable of understanding the point or arguing in bad faith.

              But back to the point…. You said there was zero risk, I provided an article that showed that this isn’t just my personal feeling, but a common perception of risk, be it real or just perceived.

              And I asked you to back up your claims, instead you double down and show nothing to support your point. You claim it is a simple truth in order to downplay your lack of data.

              Between the mix of bad faith arguments and trying to make this personal (about whether I would act or not) you don’t seem like you’d accept a truth if it disagreed with your personal narrative. This debate seems fruitless, so I’m done. Have a nice day.

              • mosiacmango@lemm.ee
                link
                fedilink
                arrow-up
                6
                arrow-down
                3
                ·
                edit-2
                1 year ago

                But back to the point…. You said there was zero risk, I provided an article that showed that this isn’t just my personal feeling, but a common perception of risk, be it real or just perceived.

                And I asked you to back up your claims, instead you double down and show nothing to support your point. You claim it is a simple truth in order to downplay your lack of data.

                You made a claim:

                “this action has risk.”

                You then provided no evidence at all of that risk, just an article talking about other fearful people like yourself imagining that there might be a risk. Being cowardly is not evidence of a risk, no matter how large or small the group of cowards is.

                Now you’re asking me to prove a negative, to disprove your absolutely nothing. Okay, glad to. Since you provided zero evidence of risk, and even admitted there is no recorded case of this risk happening, then its easy to see that there is no risk. Turns out something has to exist for it to exist. Tricky, that.

                Thats your gotcha argument? “I have no evidence this exists, and neither do you because it doesn’t exist, so therefore it does exist?”

                Is this your first day on the internet?

                • ArbiterXero@lemmy.world
                  link
                  fedilink
                  arrow-up
                  3
                  arrow-down
                  3
                  ·
                  1 year ago

                  Best rebuttal is calling people cowards eh?

                  You win, but I wish you would reconsider that I may have a point despite your distaste for it.

                  Have a nice day.

              • Metacortechs@lemmy.world
                link
                fedilink
                arrow-up
                6
                arrow-down
                4
                ·
                1 year ago

                And if someone gets the wrong perception so what? And what of the other x+ people seeing you do the right thing?

                I’d 100% cunt punt someone trying to attack someone performing life saving procedures on someone in crisis

                • bluGill@kbin.social
                  link
                  fedilink
                  arrow-up
                  2
                  arrow-down
                  2
                  ·
                  1 year ago

                  This isn’t about giving lifesaving procedures, this is days latter when someone realizes what happens. There is plenty or evidence that ‘bad touch’ happened, and so lacking good Samaritan laws the law was violated and that is all we need to arrest someone. This type of harassment has happened, but I have no idea how often it does .

              • jimbo@lemmy.world
                link
                fedilink
                arrow-up
                6
                arrow-down
                5
                ·
                1 year ago

                It’s pretty wild that you’re getting on someone’s case about lacking evidence when you’ve utterly failed to provide any of your own that any one has ever actually been hassled for giving CPR to a woman.

                • bluGill@kbin.social
                  link
                  fedilink
                  arrow-up
                  2
                  arrow-down
                  4
                  ·
                  1 year ago

                  I know paramedics who got formal complaints about this. Their boss ignored as the paramedics were acting as trained.

                  • Sjy@lemm.ee
                    link
                    fedilink
                    arrow-up
                    4
                    ·
                    1 year ago

                    I am a paramedic, these comments have lost me. At least in the United States there is a 0% chance anything will happen if someone does CPR on another while acting in good faith.

                    This does exclude some some uncomfortable situations where family is screaming at me that I’m not doing enough or that I need to help them and people have appeared to be close to getting violent but I’ve never been attacked, and if someone is threatening another individual that is trying to help, leave. We can’t help other people if we become another person who needs help.

                    But I’ve done CPR on a lot of people, it’s violent. No one around will ever have to wonder what is being done, it is very clear and I don’t believe it is possible to confuse with touching an unconscious person inappropriately. Again, these comments have lost me. Maybe if some of these people would see a resuscitation attempt, they’d probably realize once the patient is spitting up blood from how violently their chest is being pushed on, there is no way to misinterpret CPR for groping.

                • ArbiterXero@lemmy.world
                  link
                  fedilink
                  arrow-up
                  3
                  arrow-down
                  6
                  ·
                  1 year ago

                  I provided a link showing that this risk, real or perceived is prevalent.

                  But you didn’t read that, did you?

                  I also didn’t make the case that I knew the numbers on the risk, in fact I made the case that neither of us know. So the burden of proof is on the person making the claim of knowing the risk. That’s not me.

                  But you’re not gonna listen to that either.

                  😉 have a nice day.

                  • jimbo@lemmy.world
                    link
                    fedilink
                    arrow-up
                    2
                    arrow-down
                    1
                    ·
                    edit-2
                    1 year ago

                    I provided a link showing that this risk, real or perceived is prevalent.

                    Suddenly trying to substitute “perceived risk” for “real risk” is a rather weaselly way to make an argument about real risk.

                    But you didn’t read that, did you?

                    Yes, and it was an odd article for you to link to since it didn’t at all support your claim about there being real risk. Perceptions do not always align with reality, and you know that.

                    I also didn’t make the case that I knew the numbers on the risk, in fact I made the case that neither of us know. So the burden of proof is on the person making the claim of knowing the risk. That’s not me.

                    You’ve been making the claim in almost every comment that there’s a real risk of someone being accused of a sex crime while performing CPR. You’ve provided no evidence for that risk. You’ve admitted that you have no evidence of that risk. Yet you still keep claiming it’s a real risk. You don’t just get to say, “Well neither of us know for sure therefore you must accept my claim”. That’s ridiculous.

                    Have a nice day.

    • Cringe2793@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      2
      ·
      1 year ago

      Verbally chided? Getting sued for SA and getting your life ruined doesn’t really seem like “verbally chided”. Yeah, I’d probably let people die because my life is more important.

    • BearOfaTime@lemm.ee
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      1
      ·
      edit-2
      1 year ago

      Yes, I am.

      I’m not risking jail over this crap. Lost a job over it once, so I have personal, first-hand experience with the bullshit.