• Driftking@lemmy.mlOP
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    1 year ago

    For the purpose of disclosure. I just cant live with myself if I do not tell prospective partners when they ask. I know there is a difference between avoidance and lying, however, I value honesty. Not implying that you are not or should thinknas I do

    • SatansMaggotyCumFart@lemmy.world
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      1 year ago

      Last year I shit myself while trying to open my door and get to the bathroom.

      I dropped my keys while I was trying to unlock the door and ended up with shit in my shoes that I had to throw away.

      I never bring that up on dates.

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        1 year ago

        I can’t agree. I think people should have a friendship as strong as their romance.

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          Some things are not made to be shared. You are two different people. Leave a little mystery.

          I’ve been with my partner for 27 years, so have a bit of experience to draw from.

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      1 year ago

      The fact that you need to “disclose” this makes it sound like you yourself see an issue with it

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      Is it typical to give a whole run-down of your sexual history when dating? Like, I’ve mentioned previous encounters or exes when it comes up, but rarely near the beginning of the dating process. In my experience people tend to not have those discussions. Not because it’s bad but because it doesn’t matter. When I meet a new woman and start seeing them, I don’t need to hear about or care about their past relationships unless it’s something they feel they want to share for whatever reason.

      It sounds like you don’t think sex work is immoral, so I wouldn’t bring it up unless it’s something that would actually affect your current relationship. If sex is casual enough to commodify then it’s not something that would be brought up when getting to know someone. Do you also give them a run-down of every meal you’ve ever bought at restaurants?