likely in response to my comments on the beehaw post, which i linked to (hopefully im doing this right?). apparently, calling people you dont know for the first time “they/them” before being told their pronouns is “misgendering”. absurd. this kind of attitude threatens the larger LGBTQ community and is partially why cishets hate us after we won so much progress back in the 00s and 10s.
im a queer person. im neurodivergent. this shit is so goddamn fucking annoying, especially as an older queer who got physically assaulted on a near daily basis for being queer in the 90s. the kids today get their panties in a twist over being supposedly “misgendered” by someone calling them gender neutral pronouns before being corrected. narcissistic victimhood bullshit.
anyways, now banned from one of my favorite instances. meanwhile in the US theyre planning on hunting us. but yeah, lets ban fellow queers over their view that people who get mad about being “misgendered” when they arent (cis people are also referred to as “they/them” before further context in a conversation with a stranger) are just attention seeking brats that threaten the larger movement. its so obvious to me that the brats who find reason to be offended over innocent pronoun use never faced real adversity, like getting repeatedly physically beaten.
edit - the best part of all of this is i faced no moderation from beehaw and all of my comments are +1 or higher. power tripping oversensitive neurodivergent hating bastard of a mod over at blahaj IMO.
edit 2 - did this wrong. heres a link to the post i think got me banned from blahaj and a screenshot about it https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/37659465
Edit 3 - apparently I did nothing wrong until I made my thoughts known about how the pronoun police fucked over the larger LGBTQ community as our rights are backsliding in America. Yall are gonna whine about being misgendered to the concentration camp guards at the rate we’re going. God forbid I be angry that while queers were busy fighting over pronouns our adversaries stuffed the courts, stuffed the school boards, couped the government, and are installing a fascist dictatorship. When I say that these fucking toddlers are going to learn what real oppression tastes like, that’s what I mean. It’s not that I want us to be hurt or oppressed (as the dog piling idiots have interpreted), it’s that the younger generation is weak as hell and lost the fucking plot in the fight for our rights. I grew up getting beaten in the streets for being queer only for these kids to claim their pronouns not being mind-read is oppression!
I think if you’d expressed yourself a bit more reasonably you’d probably be fine expressing the general sentiment that some segment of the queer community is overly focused on performative actions and calling out people who aren’t toeing the line of ideological purity over real world gains in rights and acceptance. You can express criticism in a measured way or you can try to use it as a means to insult and inflict insecurity and hurt. Those are very different things.
It’s the difference between “hey idiot, I ordered this without ketchup, make it again” and “hi, sorry, this wasn’t supposed to have ketchup on it”. One is abusive and unreasonable, the other is a polite way of getting your point across. Dr House is funny to watch on TV, but he’s not a model for effective communication in the real world. If you focus on being as angry and unpleasant as humanly possible at every turn, people will ignore you and shut you out regardless of whether you would be making a good point.
It costs you nothing to find a slightly diplomatic way to make your point, but being overly harsh about it may cost you everything.
I’m not going to tone police myself when these piss baby queers are threatening the physical safety of the rest of us with their stupid pronoun temper tantrums.
I fought the real fight for acceptance and to watch these main characters piss away all we fought for so they can get attention and feel important is not something I’m going to be nice about. Not when society is actively turning against us and the violence I suffered my entire childhood that me and my fellow millennials and those who came before us fought the real fight to end is now returning.
I’m not putting up with main characters faking “oppression” and I guess I no longer belong to the queer community since I’m not going to put up with fake attention seeking claims of being “misgendered”. These people are chronically online.
Then prepare to get banned from spaces that don’t tolerate abusive behavior. And prepare to push people away in any and every relationship that you take this approach in.