Was presented with this question. Lets simplify it and remove the spin.

Are you ok with your enemy using the software you've published?

I quickly answered, yes! It's open source. This must include enemies

Similar to free speech, censorship aside, if not willing to defend essholes being essholes then don’t really have free speech

Linus Torvalds slipped, tossing Russian maintainers. Politicizing open source makes it open for some, but not for others.

Which is a real dilemma cuz i hate everyone equally

To answer your question, the fediverse welcomes Nazi fascists commis gays whatever running instances. If don’t like the instance moderators can always jump on another instance. And instances owners do not federate with instances they don’t like.

… and the world goes on just fine