I’ve been lurking on Bsky, a new replacement for social media, and women seem to be entirely uninterested in talking to men in most cases. They’ll say that things like they’re looking for new female friends, they love seeing beautiful women in their feed, they reply to other women who comment on their posts… But they tend to ignore men entirely. Even if a guy is just being platonic or speaking in a similar manner to a woman, they’re completely ignored. To test this, I changed my profile picture to that of a female anime avatar but I didn’t change my tone or manner of speaking at all. All of a sudden, I had people replying to me, saying nice things, being responsive to me. It’s like they assumed I was female, so I was ok to respond to.
Why do women avoid men so much?
Perhaps you might benefit from some inward reflection? Presuming your observations to be accurate, why does it bother you? If women had good reason, or any reason, to distrust or avoid men, how would that change how you interact with them? What drives you to seek the kinds of interactions with women that your desiring? Is there anything in how you speak with women that might not be very inviting to further conversation?
The internet is a funny place. People are very often not who they seem to be. Usernames and avatars often portray a person in a way that mismatches the person behind the keyboard. Even when people use their real name and a true photo, they can end up being very different than who you might think. This happens in everyday life, including face to face IRL relationships.
What are you looking for in such interactions, DuckWrangler? Does it align with what they are hoping for?
When women read your post here, how might they perceive what you’ve written? Would they be put off? Why? Do the presumptions bother them? Do they sense entitlement that puts them off? Do they sense someone with ulterior motives? Again, why?
Yes. This reads of an entitled “nice dude” with ulterior motives. The kind who DMs “hey”
These are the questions you need to ask yourself. The issue here isn’t women, they’re not a hive-minded conglomerate.