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    • smb@lemmy.ml
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      27 days ago

      i did it once after the bed was in a corner for years, felt great but i had to learn to keep the pillow on the bed while sleeping, which took a time.

      next i’ld want to try is a round bed hanging from above, but actually not in the near future.

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    27 days ago

    As a cis het white guy it’s important for everyone here to know what I think:

    Fatherhood, and my monogamous het partnership are the best things that’ve happened in my life.

    “Traditional family values” (paternalism, misogynism etc) are toxic, and abusive. If your existence as a trans person helps undermine them, I celebrate you. If your existence as a trans person somehow reinforces those values I’ll still celebrate you (but I’ll be curious about how that’s happening).

    You have allies.

    Edit to add: the opening line was firmly tongue in cheek.

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      Ay fr, from a “blue haired gendergrafitti skoldilocks”: Your ways may be alien and sometimes even a false positive for me to be on my guard…but I will always distinguish healthy, non-coercive forms of allocishet relationships apart from the Imperial Family model.

      I figure that reminder does hurt for next time the topic comes up next to the word colonialism: That you refuse to subordinate and to be subordinated is seen.

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      they actually destroyed way more than just the future of “one” generation, have a brief view on their “successes” they are proud of and judge it by how they did it and its durability vs its real/permament costs.