• AnotherMadHatter@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    Honesty, I think it would be fairly easy to figure out.

    If it is derogatory - homophobe.

    If it points out an idiosyncracy, and makes fun of it - queer, or at least not homophobe.

    In my experience, bgoted people make jokes that insult and/or demean those people they hate. It is not done primarily to be funny, but to hurt and demean. Making it funny just helps spread it around.

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      2 months ago

      whoa, no, this is not at all my experience. practically the opposite.

      very often queer people make self-deprecating jokes about their communities that are on their face insulting.

      this sounds like a good idea to me because I don’t think anybody would get it.

      it would be like that TV show or whatever who tells the truth, to tell the truth, that nobody ever wins because nobody ever knows when somebody else is lying.

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        Huh, you know maybe knowing the origin of the joke affects how I determine whether it’s derogatory or not?

        I did not think about that, but looking back, seems like an easy pitfall.

        Good point.

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      2 months ago

      Maybe my friends are just weird but I heard my Queer friends tell to eachother such homophobic stuff,as joke of course but with a serious voice so a third person could believe that they are serious, that I was extremely shocked the first few times we hung out 😂😂😂 Now I laugh my ass off but I would never dare to do it myself even tho I’m 100% sure they would be down with it. 🏳️‍🌈

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      2 months ago

      It’s easy if you ignore the closeted folks who are terrified of being found out and participate in the gay shaming.