It can be difficult and uncomfortable to tell someone you don’t like them. For women, it can also be dangerous because some men get very aggressive when they’re turned down. You don’t know her experiences and why she chose to make those statements. I don’t think what she did was wrong.

I’ve been in similar shoes. It’s really hard to notice the cues. Neurotypical people also don’t understand how we think. Since they don’t know what to expect they get scared. They don’t know what other boundaries we’re not aware of.