I’m calling for https://lemmy.ml/u/Beaver@lemmy.ca, the most prolific user of the transgender comm here on lemmy.ml, to be immediately unbanned and nutomic to be removed as admin. It is good and correct to leak the DMs of transphobes.
@dessalines@lemmy.ml @JoeBidet@lemmy.ml @cypherphunks
edit: you can find more info from kristinas post here and beavers post here
edit 2: proof, also beaver was banned from the whole instance modlong
edit 3: For trans people looking for a safer instance, I suggest Hexbear. They have a very active trans user base and are extremely supportive.
[I’m neither transgender nor a tankie, but instead just a rando browsing “all” who has no dog in this fight (aside from a general preference toward egalitarianism and against bigotry). I’m only commenting because this appears to be starting to spill over into issues that are relevant to the Fediverse at large.]
Hell no, not even a little bit! There’s no such thing as “leaking” a PM* because the recipient has the right to publicize it! It’s fucking nuts to send a message to somebody – especially one that pisses them off – and then expect them to keep it secret for the sender’s benefit. If the sender doesn’t like it, his recourse is to not fucking send the message in the first place!
The notion that the recipient of a PM has any kind of obligation toward the sender is the dumbest fucking thing I’ve read on this site in a while, and that’s saying a lot since I’ve been reading about Trump and shit. Actually going so far as to ban somebody for a reason so pants-on-head moronic is absolutely beyond the pale.
By the way, I’m assuming that you (@maegal) are saying things like “I get that leaking personal chats is always a dodgy thing” because you’re trying to be charitable to better persuade Nutomic. If you actually believe that nonsense, then you need to get your head screwed on correctly, too.
(* unless somebody hacks the server to obtain PMs that he wasn’t a party to, which I assume is not what we’re talking about here.)
I don’t think we’re that far off from each other.
In saying “always a dodgy thing” I meant something closer to “always potentially” where obviously it depends with transphobic messages being a relevant example.
That being said, I think this is a scenario where people will naturally differ in their expectations. “Obligation” as you put it is a very strong word and nothing like what I was alluding to. But I think many would subscribe to the idea that direct messages are a relatively protected space. Some less so. All with exceptions and “lines” that probably differ too. I briefly asked someone I consider more ethical than me, and they were probably more inclined to think of DMs as protected than me. Obviously no excuse for abuse, but presumed private.
I also suspect that there are generational differences here too. Older people whose Internet lives precede facebook’s push toward merging real and online life might have a greater inclination toward expecting privacy online.
In this particular case, it was clearly devs/mods talking shop, so clearly less of a public discussion. But you never know. Maybe nutomic felt like they could share their more speculative “theories”without worrying about coming off as crazy. Dunno.
Personally, I’d like a culture where DMs are presumed protected and private. But maybe that’s just me.