I am fat, balding and have psoriasis, I am 36 years old, have never been in a relationship.

Up untill I was 28 or so I let my insecurities about my looks dictate what I did or didn’t do.

But when I realized that the only kind of excersize I have been able to stick with was swimming and started to go regularly, I realized that I should just stop caring and focus on myself, so I did.

I realized that I didn’t have the energy to deal with it, I used to try and suck in my gut when at the public pool, but eh, I realized it it better to just act mature and go and deal with it.

I also know how to dress fine, I obviously don’t fantastic due to being fat, but I do dress well with long trousers and button down shirts, I have a decent sense of what colours work together (navy blue shirts are allways a good colour, in general, dark and pale colors works for everyone), and that does work great!

I am balding, have been for many years now, and have accepted it, I don’t shave my head but I go for a 6mm buzz cut once a month, that is fantastic since it makes going to the barbers increadibly easy!

I have also worn glasses since I went to daycare, and have upgraded my style there as well, I used to go to a cheap optician with decent style frames, but now that I can afford it, I go to a more expensive optician and get frames from Lindbergs and sunglasses from Persol. They look fantastic!

As for my main current concern, my psoriasis, I got it a few years ago, it got treated well with creams, but it never goes away, my doctor prescribed me some pills to deal with it, but I read that they contain stereoids, and once you start with them you can’t just quit cold turkey.

That is an absolute no go for me, I am terrified of medicin that can mess with my mind and can’t be quit when I want to.

So for the last two years I have simply not dealt with it ofter than trying to be out in the sun when I can.

After I moved out from my mom’s house insecurities are a piece of cake. My confidencev just sky rocketed.

Before, I didn’t realise I was insecure, I though I was normal. I just thought that it was common place to be put down and have everything I do contested because it wasn’t done the right way. Now I’m married and I won’t fall for these shenanigans.

I was insecure about a lot up until about my last year of college. I didn’t really overcome anything directly, but I did find a few things I could be proud of. I was able to look at myself and say I had a few things going for me, and so I began to like myself as a person, which I hadn’t been able to say before. I still have most of the stuff I’m insecure about but it just doesn’t affect me because I focus on the things I’m proud of.

Once you achieve that inner confidence, I believe it will display itself for others too, and you’ll feel like less people notice or think about the things you’re insecure about.

I got more confidence when I had some professional success and I stopped caring as much what other people think (used to overthink a lot)

what?