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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Em0monkey98 on 2023-07-18 01:32:32.

I(25M) like the idea but know its going to lead to falling out.My wife 24 has been talking with her older sister(26) about taking a family trip to disney with her mom and moms boyfriend.

They are wanting to plan a family trip to disney world in May of 24. This all started to sound like a great idea but my wife brought up a valid point that her sister would try to take advantage of us not having kids and we may be looked at to babysit. My sister in-law has 3 kids all range from 3,2, and 1. The sister in-law 4 hours away from us and the kids have no idea who we are, and both my wife and I agree that the kids have 0 raising as the oldeat only grumbles for things and doesnt attemp to talk. They are the definition of a hell spawns. They dont have a set bed time, they dont get told no, and if they dont feeling doing something then they will sit on the ground and throw a tantrum until they get there way. I grew up an only child and my family never had kids after me. And my older cousins never came around alot when there kids were little so I have no experience dealing with small kids. I am used to dealing with kids that were atleast 10 as my parents would go out and leave me in charge of the family friends kids when i was 16. Also to add in i am a white male and having 3 smalls kids around me doesnt look good when I look no more than 21.

My wife has talking with her mom and sister about the trip and the place they want to stay is an air bnb 2 full rooms with queen beds and 2 other rooms with twin beds in each room. The sister in-law is married and my mother in-law has a steady relationship with a guy who all would be going. This would leave my wife and I to stay in of the rooms with twin beds. I have told my wife every time we get invited to something with her sister they expect something grand from us. Her sister knows what i do for work and knows i make a very high 5 figure salary. For our area that is very good. I told my wife i will not be sleeping in a twin bed for a week after paying our portion of the house and our tickets, that i will get a room at a motel 6 if i had too. We are married and deserve to be treated as such. Her sister is a very hush hush type of person when dealing with anything adult related but we are not. We both know her sister will take advantage of us not wanting to do some rides because my wife does not like specific rides that her sister loves and i wont leave my wife by herself to jus stand and wait by herself for over an hour and her sister will use that as we would be the only ones able to watch all 3 kids. So i told my wife if its gets to that point and they dont want to listen to us we will go home and eat the cost of the trip. Now i am perfectly fine with going, I just dont like us to be taken advantage of or be treated like kids ourselves. The 3 kids have been to disney before its nothing new for them. In all honesty they wont remember it anyways. So WIBTA