Pride as opposite to shame, which is one of the drivers of living in the closet. If that word doesn’t do it anymore for you that’s good because that means your circumstances are more benevolent towards queer people than the ones that prompted pride to be named like that. In that case you can choose another word, like “liberation” or any other that addresses the issues queer people face in your context.
Edit. And I mistaked the reply to post for the reply to comment button. Again. This meant to answer to @JackGreenEarth@lemm.ee
I understand why LGBT+ people feel the need to draw attention to themselves, as historically they were persecuted. Now, however, it seems a way to other ourselves and have a superiority complex. That’s just how it feels to me, uncomfortable. If other people want to be loud and active in making sure everyone knows and cares that they’re LGBT+, even though most people around them would already accept and give them equal rights to cishet people - sure, whatever. People can do what they like. It just seems to me like an antisocial, rather than respect/acceptance-related thing to do.
You know what happens if you are not loud and active in making sure everyone knows and cares that you are LGBT+? That everybody will know and care that you are heterosexual. Because that’s still society’s default setting. What society expects you to be and projects upon you. When I was young(er) I felt more uncomfortable when everyfuckingbody asked me when was I going to get a girlfriend than I was when I started drawing attention on my being gay at the pride demonstrations. If you don’t like the pride you are free to not go, of course. But pride is necessary for a lot of people. Critisising it as a non-participant comes accross as demobilising because the criticism of pride is exactly the same every year since it started, and people lose a lot of energy jumping back a couple of decades to address an already addressed issue.
Pride as opposite to shame, which is one of the drivers of living in the closet. If that word doesn’t do it anymore for you that’s good because that means your circumstances are more benevolent towards queer people than the ones that prompted pride to be named like that. In that case you can choose another word, like “liberation” or any other that addresses the issues queer people face in your context.
Edit. And I mistaked the reply to post for the reply to comment button. Again. This meant to answer to @JackGreenEarth@lemm.ee
I understand why LGBT+ people feel the need to draw attention to themselves, as historically they were persecuted. Now, however, it seems a way to other ourselves and have a superiority complex. That’s just how it feels to me, uncomfortable. If other people want to be loud and active in making sure everyone knows and cares that they’re LGBT+, even though most people around them would already accept and give them equal rights to cishet people - sure, whatever. People can do what they like. It just seems to me like an antisocial, rather than respect/acceptance-related thing to do.
You know what happens if you are not loud and active in making sure everyone knows and cares that you are LGBT+? That everybody will know and care that you are heterosexual. Because that’s still society’s default setting. What society expects you to be and projects upon you. When I was young(er) I felt more uncomfortable when everyfuckingbody asked me when was I going to get a girlfriend than I was when I started drawing attention on my being gay at the pride demonstrations. If you don’t like the pride you are free to not go, of course. But pride is necessary for a lot of people. Critisising it as a non-participant comes accross as demobilising because the criticism of pride is exactly the same every year since it started, and people lose a lot of energy jumping back a couple of decades to address an already addressed issue.