Hello, I am a young CF man of thirty years. I want to hear from my elders CFs. How they were living in their thirties.

  • OrkneyKomodo@lemmy.sdf.org
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    1 year ago

    Currently in my mid 30s. Life is good. Spent the past year trying to turn over a new page in the book of life. Hoping to emigrate with my partner soon. I’ve already changed to a remote working job. I split my spare time between: running, photography, sailing, hiking, coding & gaming. Lots of this would be impossible or very difficult with children.

    • Weirdfish@lemmy.world
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      1 year ago

      Almost 50, and things are still good.

      Being CF had allowed me to make choices that would have otherwise been unavailable to me.

      I change careers when I want, move where and when I want. I’m open to peruse, or end, relationships based only on my goals and needs.

      As others have mentioned, dealing with friends when they have families can be an issue, but honestly, I haven’t had too much trouble. The one couple I’m close with that has kids still find time to do things, and I’m someone they call when they want a night away to do things.

      Not once have I felt regret, but I’m from a large family, and have many nieces and nephews, so no one looks at me to “continue the family name”. In fact, being the black sheep, there is often a sigh of relief.

      Dating can be a challenge, I’ve had more than one relationship end because they wanted kids, and I’ve had some never start because they had kids already.

      Now I’m with someone who is as CF as I am, and this only ever comes up in jokes.