• Mango@lemmy.world
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    7 months ago

    The way my mother “taught” me doesn’t exactly leave me with a good impression of what women are about or why I should treat them any different from men.

    We don’t talk anymore, and I will never have kids.

                • Taleya@aussie.zone
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                  7 months ago

                  Yeah that guilt attempt’s not gonna work here.

                  This isn’t an appeal for empathy deal. A comic thread on casual, normalised abuse women face on the internet isn’t the place to unpack your personal trauma about an abusive parent. You’ll notice i didn’t bring my abusive mother up either - because it’s not the place.

                  There’s a nasty habit in some circles of waiting until someone else speaks and then seizing that opportunity to unload your shit. At its worse it’s a bad faith whataboutism tactic designed to derail. At its best it’s a maladaptive coping mechanism. Find how to speak on your own.

        • Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works
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          7 months ago

          I never said the abuse they suffered was a good thing. Nor that they have to interact with women at all. In fact both things I did say fit perfectly with them never interacting with women.

      • KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        7 months ago

        i’ll go into the damn woods if i please, keeps me farther away from you, and you farther away from me, which we’ll both appreciate at the end of the day. :)