porcelain@lemm.ee

porcelain@lemm.ee

Hi! Thought I’d start a weekly post asking people how their day has been to kickstart engagement for this community and hopefully boost it in the long term too.

So how has your day been? Anything you’ve struggled with or anything you’re proud of?

I’ll start:

I struggled with some irrational thoughts regarding a specific part of my appearance today, so that was hard but it got better towards the end of the day (and right now!). I’ve quelled the anxiety that it caused by thinking about getting CBT therapy if the irrational thoughts continue. Oh and I made this community today so otherwise I guess it’s been a pretty nice day :)

What are the rules for this community?

Be Kind

Conversation and opinions are allowed, but aggressive, demeaning, belittling, prejudicial or otherwise harmful behaviour is not allowed.

No asking or offering surgery/drugs advice

It’s ok to mention surgery/drugs, but giving out or asking for advice about it is strictly not allowed. It’s extremely important that advice involving serious medical procedures is only taken from and given by licensed medical professionals, not people in this community.

No linking to triggering content

Linked content that is considered to be triggering is not allowed.

No spamming

Spam posts/comments are not allowed. Spam posts/comments are defined as containing content that is unrelated to BDD or the OP, or containing content that is the same/similar and posted repeatedly in a short space of time (3 or more times within 4 days).

No selfies

Selfies are not allowed as they can be triggering to others and are rarely helpful to the poster. To expand, posts containing links to selfies or instructions to find their selfies are not allowed.

Content containing strong derogatory language should be marked as NSFW

Sometimes people may want to vent and may use derogatory language to refer to themselves. This is allowed as we don’t want to alienate people reaching out for support however it must be marked as NSFW as it can be triggering to others with BDD.

No social or political commentary

This rule is in place as social and political commentary are often negative and unhelpful, and may even be triggering.

No gatekeeping, invalidation, or lookism

We do not allow gatekeeping or invalidating others’ experiences on any basis. Also directing a conversation from BDD to lookism, incel rhetoric or gender divide is not allowed.

No asking or offering of pictures or private feedback

We do not approve of users asking or offering photos for purposes such as “getting/offering honest opinions” or “improvement advice”. This includes offering to provide personal consultation or feedback without photos. This rule is in place as feedback can potentially be very damaging to someone with BDD. Asking users to send photos, publicly or privately, is not allowed.

These rules are subject to change

If there is overwhelming support for the revision of one of these rules then the rule will be reviewed and community input listened to. Alternatively if I feel I have neglected to create an important rule, or want to revise a rule to make it clearer, then I reserve the right to add to or change the current rules.

Please report any content you think is in violation of these rules for us to review

This will help us moderate the sub and provide a better experience for everyone.

Do not refer to or ask for content that promotes surgery or drug use

This is strictly forbidden as surgery and drugs can be very harmful if they are not done/used properly as directed by a licensed medical professional.

Comments should remain on the topic of the post

Comments that don’t contribute to the post are unhelpful and not allowed.

Posts should remain on the topic of BDD

Posts not on-topic are not helpful and not allowed.

Free Resources

BDD Foundation

contains tons of information about BDD, ranging from information, support services (which includes an email helpline specifically for BDD btw), and others’ stories.

Building Body Acceptance by CCI

contains a rich and complete workbook that guides you and helps you understand your BDD.

Credits

Credit for the community icon:

Icon made by Freepik from www.flaticon.com

Credit for the rules:

@porcelain@lemm.ee (me), however I was very heavily inspired by the rules at https://www.reddit.com/r/BodyDysmorphia/

Credit for the Free Resources section:

@porcelain@lemm.ee (me), and @Sora@feddit.ch

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