• nifty@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    We shouldn’t be judging people based on their voice. When we treat women with high pitched voices as potentially authoritative we take power away from the attempt to make it a sign of submission.

    Yes! That’s an idea I fully support :)

    but we also need to be aware that some women are pressured into looking and sounding smaller and more feminine in order to come off as more subservient to men.

    I agree wholeheartedly, and I’ll add that a lot of the policies concerning women and reproductive rights and pregnancy/divorce cropping up in conservative states are very troubling. The conditioning of women to be subservient is part of it.

    Have you seen the movie Mystic Pizza? It breaks my heart, but that’s the kind of life “sweet” women get saddled with when they learn that standing up for themselves is somehow not “good girl” behavior. I feel like there should be memes that subvert the whole “good girl” trope, like filing for divorce when you’re in an abusive relationship is a good girl behavior (as in good on you lol)

    • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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      9 months ago

      I like where your head is at, but I don’t really like the idea of reframing “good girl” for two reasons: 1) the phrase is as sexualized as daddy is, and 2) it reinforces approval seeking behavior as contrasted with what is happening of memes encouraging women to be all the “negative” things. A good girl is a rube. A bad bitch takes care of herself, a slut gets laid, prude knows who isn’t worth fucking, etc. It revolves around desensitizing women to the things you’re just going to inevitably be called if you have both tits and a spine