I find the terms themselves useful to describe aspects that are often linked to but not dependent on gender. For example, I like weight lifting, which is often considered to be a masculine activity. Part of my working through internalised misogyny as an adult has been acknowledging the various ways that I do and don’t fit into what a “typical woman” is or “should be”.

Another example is how when I was a kid, I was super into pink stuff. Then as a teenager, I had a deep “not like other girls” phase, but now I’m well into adulthood, I’ve chilled the hell out and can enjoy pink more. I got a fancy stationary set last month and it was pink. That’s just one part of a wider trend of how as I mature, I feel more free to embrace what I understand to be femininity.