I called some people I’m seeing partners, but got scolded by a friend because I guess partner means a relationship that’s more “serious”. My friend suggested calling them lovers.

I’m emotionally involved with all my people and I care about them. I just get an ick from labels and relationship ladders (abusive family).

I’m looking for a word that’s unassuming, but clearly says “I’m not single” so I can easily be honest with monogamous people.

Any suggestions? Lover sounds a little too much like cheating.

  • Herding Llamas@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Partner is great and is non-gendered (in English). You could also go for the classic or boyfriend / girlfriend or “I’m in a relationship” or significant other. They all work but you do you. If you feel like partner is best and you’re romantic interest is cool with that title - go for it.

  • Kayel@aussie.zone
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    1 year ago

    I once panicked introducing a friend and said “lover”. Don’t think I could have made everyone involved more awkward if I had tried.

    I like primary. Secondary sounds like you’re ranking people however.

    Let me know if you figure it out. Not that I’m participating any longer, but I am curious.

  • MMNT@lemmy.ml
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    Call them whatever you want. Your relationships your choice. There’s no need to gatekeep every little detail ffs.