Everywhere I go now I see young parents glued to their phones and ignoring their children. Or worse, they gave their toddlers tablets and it’s a family of zombies.
It’s a hard balance, being parents right now. I’m going to make an assumption and guess you mean you see them in public, yeah? The thing is (I say this as a parent of currently 9 and 7 year olds), our society — at least, my society in the US — still feels a bit like it expects children to be “seen and not heard” while in public. If even seen, to be honest. I don’t see it as much here on Lemmy but I saw anti-kid posts on Reddit all the time. I don’t mean childfree; I mean they constantly complained about other people’s kids. Yes, sometimes that can be due to a lack of structured parenting, but kids are also just little socially-inept, impulse-driven creatures who are still figuring the world out. The urge to hand them a magical little device that will occupy them and keep them “seen and not heard” while you are out somewhere is perilously strong.
All that being said: just last week I was sitting to the side at my son’s martial arts class, and next to me was a mom on her phone who had a young girl, maybe 3 or 4, next to her. The girl was squirmy but quiet. I could not help noticing that the mom barely looked up from her phone the whole time. I felt really bad for the girl.
Yea it’s the same for us, the complaints from people when they see a kid in public on a tablet are weird to me cause I know as kids we always had stuff like toys we brought into restaurants (or we went to restaurants with like coloring maps and stuff).
Parents have been desperately trying to find things to occupy kids while they’re in public so they don’t disturb the people around them for years and now that smart phones/ipads are universal it seems like there’s finally something that will just keep the kids quiet for awhile without a lot of effort.
I think it’s important to pay attention how much you/your kids are spending on “screen time” but it feels really disingenuous to say stuff like the current generation is cooked because of ipads.
Yea it’s the same for us, the complaints from people when they see a kid in public on a tablet are weird to me cause I know as kids we always had stuff like toys we brought into restaurants (or we went to restaurants with like coloring maps and stuff).
I can understand if they’re blasting the audio out from the tablet and disrupting everyone else but if they’re not I don’t get what’s the fuss.
There’s a huge difference between kids playing with toys or coloring books and watching tiktok on their iPads. Not even remotely the same, and it’s concerning that so many perents don’t seem to understand that.
And the previous generations had TV. Interestingly enough boomers I’ve known are the ones who still had TVs on almost constantly post 2010 when more and more people are giving up watching broadcast TV.
Yes! This is my dad to a T. Meanwhile, my husband and I (oldish millennials) “cut the cord” fairly early on but more importantly, we actually have the TV off occasionally. That only happens in my parents’ house if my dad isn’t home. When I was a kid, he’d be working in the garage — where he had a TV — but we weren’t allowed to change the channel in the living room because he’d go back and forth and didn’t want to miss anything.
I recently saw a young woman stopped in the middle of a subway entrance, poking at her phone, while in the pram in front of her, a two year old was also entranced by its own phone. It was completely surreal.
Everywhere I go now I see young parents glued to their phones and ignoring their children. Or worse, they gave their toddlers tablets and it’s a family of zombies.
It’s a hard balance, being parents right now. I’m going to make an assumption and guess you mean you see them in public, yeah? The thing is (I say this as a parent of currently 9 and 7 year olds), our society — at least, my society in the US — still feels a bit like it expects children to be “seen and not heard” while in public. If even seen, to be honest. I don’t see it as much here on Lemmy but I saw anti-kid posts on Reddit all the time. I don’t mean childfree; I mean they constantly complained about other people’s kids. Yes, sometimes that can be due to a lack of structured parenting, but kids are also just little socially-inept, impulse-driven creatures who are still figuring the world out. The urge to hand them a magical little device that will occupy them and keep them “seen and not heard” while you are out somewhere is perilously strong.
All that being said: just last week I was sitting to the side at my son’s martial arts class, and next to me was a mom on her phone who had a young girl, maybe 3 or 4, next to her. The girl was squirmy but quiet. I could not help noticing that the mom barely looked up from her phone the whole time. I felt really bad for the girl.
Yea it’s the same for us, the complaints from people when they see a kid in public on a tablet are weird to me cause I know as kids we always had stuff like toys we brought into restaurants (or we went to restaurants with like coloring maps and stuff).
Parents have been desperately trying to find things to occupy kids while they’re in public so they don’t disturb the people around them for years and now that smart phones/ipads are universal it seems like there’s finally something that will just keep the kids quiet for awhile without a lot of effort.
I think it’s important to pay attention how much you/your kids are spending on “screen time” but it feels really disingenuous to say stuff like the current generation is cooked because of ipads.
I can understand if they’re blasting the audio out from the tablet and disrupting everyone else but if they’re not I don’t get what’s the fuss.
There’s a huge difference between kids playing with toys or coloring books and watching tiktok on their iPads. Not even remotely the same, and it’s concerning that so many perents don’t seem to understand that.
And the previous generations had TV. Interestingly enough boomers I’ve known are the ones who still had TVs on almost constantly post 2010 when more and more people are giving up watching broadcast TV.
Yes! This is my dad to a T. Meanwhile, my husband and I (oldish millennials) “cut the cord” fairly early on but more importantly, we actually have the TV off occasionally. That only happens in my parents’ house if my dad isn’t home. When I was a kid, he’d be working in the garage — where he had a TV — but we weren’t allowed to change the channel in the living room because he’d go back and forth and didn’t want to miss anything.
You can always tell a Milford man.
I recently saw a young woman stopped in the middle of a subway entrance, poking at her phone, while in the pram in front of her, a two year old was also entranced by its own phone. It was completely surreal.