• Franzia@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      No I think this genuinely comes from a fear of trans people. Transphobia. But since you’re being honest and good faith, and not hateful about it, I can see why it’s confusing to be called transphobic.

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        fear? i just don’t want to fuck them

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            1 year ago

            I feel the same about sleeping with men. I guess it’s the same feeling homosexuals feel about sleeping with people of the opposite gender. I just can’t bring myself to do it.

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      People are allowed to have whatever sexual/romantic preferences they want, so long as they’re not an asshole about it. Other people don’t have the right to tell you what you like or dislike when it comes to intimate partners.

      And yes, it can even be for stupid or shallow reasons – as long as you aren’t an asshole about it.

      Bit of advice: you don’t owe people detailed explanations. “I’m just not attracted to them” is fine. You’re fine as long as you’re truly a decent person in how you treat people you don’t want to sleep with.

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        I know i don’t owe anyone an explanation, i just like to have a discussion here. I think its unfair that a lot of trans women get offended when straight cis men dont want to date them, like they dont realise it can be a huge turn-off. It’s one thing to respect someone as a person, but you can’t expect people to be attracted to you the same as if you are a cis woman.

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      It’s just your sexuality, and no, you’re not transphobic. We’re not at a point where the medically-created vaginas are anything like real vaginas, and on top of that, you’re 100% allowed to be turned off by whatever.