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  • Eq0@literature.cafetoMicroblog Memes@lemmy.worldMake Art
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    20 days ago

    Making art is just a part of being human. Who doesn’t doodle? Arrange something in a nice pattern? Sing a new tune under the shower?

    We have been told that only “good” art is worth making, but that’s a lie! Any art in any form is worth it because it’s worth it to the creator. Art doesn’t need an audience, at just is.




  • I understand this sucks. A lot. And you are probably right that the birth mother is influencing your child. But you can’t let it get to you and you can’t let you anger towards it (and the birth mother) show.

    Unfortunately, it seems your child is stuck between his two parents. He will most likely lash out, now and in the future. And it will hurt.

    I don’t have a lot of advice, just some support to give. Don’t let it get to you. Your kid loves you and you love him. Acceptance (yours towards whatever he say and will say) is fundamental even in the face of anger and rejection. You are also right that with only two hours a week there is little to do. I wish you all the best.


  • You met three days ago? And you are “basically living together”?

    Considering the length, it’s a fling. Considering you haven’t talked about it, it’s a situationship.

    My unwanted and unasked advice is to take some distance for at least a day before calling it anything at all. And then talk about expectations.

    Honestly (anecdote time!), when I started going out with my partner, I had some weird and totally personal hang ups with the word “boyfriend”. So for a couple of months they were “the person I am seeing” then became my “partner”. We had the conversation about exclusivity and such, talked about where we saw stuff going and so on, but wording was difficult. A word is just a word, as long as you both agree on the rest it doesn’t really matter much.







  • I never traveled solo, and don’t regret it at all. I enjoy more spending time with friends and acquaintances than doing things “my way”. I still had smaller trips on my own, arriving earlier than the rest of the group, but never enjoyed it much. So, I don’t think it’s dumb, do what you feel you will like.






  • Following others: definitely do not think of avocados as fruit, it’s closer to carrots (has some sweetness, but wouldn’t put it in a fruit salad).

    Great easy combos I haven’t seen suggested yet: with bread and feta/salty cheese, with salt pepper and mayonnaise, with oil vinegar and mustard.

    I haven’t ever had cooked avocado.

    I guess I’m in the minority here, because I quite like avocados on their own. Getting a good one changes everything and getting it at perfect ripeness is important and impacts taste too. If it feels hard, it’s too early. It should have a little bit of give when you squeeze it lightly. If it has black or dark spots inside it’s starting to go. If it has air pockets inside and/or mold you lost your shot - you can still cut off those parts and eat the rest but it will not be at peak tastiness.


  • My personal pet peeve about Duolingo;”: it doesn’t teach you a new language, it teaches you to translate to your main language. That’s absolutely not how you want to learn a language! You want the target language to stand on its own, not be piece-by-piece translated back at any interaction.

    I can magnanimously appreciate Duolingo for the purpose of giving a rough base of a new language, maybe even a little but of vocabulary. I hate everything else about it.