

With the emptiness, self reflection and accepting that I had a hole to fill with positivity. I had lived so long with negative and repressive thoughts that it left a void. Reminding myself how happy I now felt, a place for the euphoria all these new experiences were bringing, positive thoughts towards myself and towards my new community. Even if you’re struggling with it being a new experience, putting your thoughts, your words into helping other fledglings can be a very big, positive step for a lot of people, including yourself.
It can help solidify your own experiences in your mind, reinforce their feelings and your own, and act as a frequent reminder to yourself as to who you really are, especially on shaky/dysphoric/low days.
And trust me, a lot of us were scared we were doing the wrong thing. That it wasn’t a good choice, that we just didn’t know what we really wanted. There’s a bit of advice that gets thrown around often in the trans community, that if you’re spending this much time thinking about it, if you’re putting in this much effort, you’re most likely on the right track about yourself, and all that negativity is the self-doubt you’ve lived with for so long.
Find things that help you feel more you. It’s different for everyone, in their own ways. A big thing for me is shaving my legs and then throwing on a pair of comfy leggings. I can’t explain why, but the whole ritual and the feeling of smoothness and softness immediately reminds me that I made the right choice because I feel so feminine, and it feels like ME.
Finding those things that help bring out the euphoria, and beyond that the sense of self, are reinforcing. They help us find who we really are, this person who has spent our lives living below the surface, and create anchor points for us to look at and be reminded. It’s also a form of self-love and care, something that I think a lot of us need. Loving yourself is accepting yourself.














As a former Alabama resident(It was a free house, and I am not a wise woman), that “could be” isn’t needed. Same way it’s not “they could be on meth”, they’re from Alabama, they’re on meth.