Without any examples and as a third party to this discussion I would guess it’s probably because one is said with a positive albeit sarcastic yet chipper delivery. Self deprecation sounds more negative or pouty to me which can be a huge turn off. Even if someone is really good at something when they are always negative about themselves it gets old really fast.
I feel you, dude. I’ve got autism and trying to gauge people for what kind of vibe is going to land is insanely difficult. internet dating helped me so much back before it went to shit. I feel pretty lost now
Yeah, I’m at the point where I just assume the vibe will never land, so I don’t even try to interact with people anymore. Hence I get all my social interaction on lemmy.
Am I pathetic enough yet? Or have I blown so far past the threshold that it’s just sad to watch?
I think your story isn’t over yet. maybe because I’m hoping mine isn’t either, but also our lives are seldom just a single straight line to ultimate failure.
until you reach that point, have a hug 🫂 we contain multitudes of possibility and I hope you get to encounter something new about yourself soon
how you move into your future is your choice, but I will remember not to waste your limited time with any embarrassing earnesty if we cross paths again 👍
That’s funny, because whenever I try to be self-deprecating, women just call me insufferable…
gotta know your audience, you know there isn’t one thing that everyone finds attractive
You’re right, I’ll just learn how to be a mind reader before I make any attempts at humor
theres a big difference in being self depricating and making light about sucking at something.
Which one is the socially acceptable one?
making light…
you see that (missed) shot? haha nba here I come!
its funny cuz you missed.
And how is that different from self-deprecation?
Without any examples and as a third party to this discussion I would guess it’s probably because one is said with a positive albeit sarcastic yet chipper delivery. Self deprecation sounds more negative or pouty to me which can be a huge turn off. Even if someone is really good at something when they are always negative about themselves it gets old really fast.
Well I have chronic depression so if I try to sound chipper it will sound insincere.
If women really found pathetic men attractive I would be a total catch.
The fact is, that the guy who missed the shot was on the team, so he can’t be that pathetic…
I feel you, dude. I’ve got autism and trying to gauge people for what kind of vibe is going to land is insanely difficult. internet dating helped me so much back before it went to shit. I feel pretty lost now
Yeah, I’m at the point where I just assume the vibe will never land, so I don’t even try to interact with people anymore. Hence I get all my social interaction on lemmy.
Am I pathetic enough yet? Or have I blown so far past the threshold that it’s just sad to watch?
I think your story isn’t over yet. maybe because I’m hoping mine isn’t either, but also our lives are seldom just a single straight line to ultimate failure.
until you reach that point, have a hug 🫂 we contain multitudes of possibility and I hope you get to encounter something new about yourself soon
Thanks, I’ll bottle up that positivity for when someone else needs it. I know I can’t use it
how you move into your future is your choice, but I will remember not to waste your limited time with any embarrassing earnesty if we cross paths again 👍
Sorry, I didn’t mean to sound passive-aggressive. Don’t worry about my time, just don’t waste yours cause I’m obviously not worth it